How to Stop Feeling Stuck In All Areas Of Your LifeJun 15, 2021
How to Stop Feeling Stuck In All Areas Of Your Life
When did you stop going after the things you really wanted and settled for comfortable dissatisfaction?
So many people get worn down by life and forget that they have choices.
We reach a certain age or stage and just accept that this is the way it is. We remain inside our comfort zone, afraid to make changes.
The negative crap we tell ourselves over and over via our thoughts feels true. And the negative crap we hear from other people piles on top of that until it all just feels too much – we are well and truly stuck.
But the truth is that even though this situation may feel like your reality, it doesn’t have to be. At any point, you can change your life by changing your mindset.
Sick of being stuck and looking for a way to change?
Read on to find out how to choose something different.
I want to start by telling you that you are not alone. So many people out there get stuck – in the wrong jobs, in the wrong relationships, in the wrong places…
It’s far from uncommon; in fact, it’s probably more common to be stuck than to be unstuck! But just because it’s normal doesn’t mean it should be acceptable for you.
You deserve to have a fulfilling life - however that looks to you – and nobody has the right to tell you otherwise, not even your self!
To really understand how we end up this way, we need to do a bunch of work. There’s no quick answer, just as there’s no quick fix.
But just because the journey won’t be fast or easy doesn’t mean we should quit before we even try, right?
Remember, the life you want is on the other side of the things you don’t want to do – things like being brave enough to observe your thoughts, stepping away from other people’s expectations, and feeling afraid and uncertain a lot of the time!
Why Do We Get Stuck?
The reasons we get stuck are numerous, and everyone is different. But a lot of it boils down to our mindset – the thoughts we have that dictate the behaviours and habits we adopt.
So many of us get stuck in a negative frame of mind. We talk ourselves out of things because we don’t feel we are good enough, or perhaps we are afraid of stepping away from what we know.
Mindset is everything, and it’s hard to make positive choices when we are trapped in a negative mindset.
“If you believe it will work out, you will see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles.”
- Dr Wayne Dyer
Mindset also impacts the stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what our life is like. Even if these stories are self-sabotaging and limiting, they are somewhat comforting – until we get sick of listening to our own crap and decide to take a step back.
The good news is that none of the stuff that got you where you are is set in stone, even if it feels that way! Mindset, thought patterns, behaviours, and stories can be changed. You just need to start doing the work.
Is It Time For A Change?
Why would we want to limit ourselves and sabotage our dreams?
Because staying in our comfort zone feels safe. Believe it or not, that negative critic in your head that says you are not good enough, can’t do it, are better off not trying – that critic is your mind’s clumsy, ineffective way of trying to protect you!
So, what’s the first step in getting out of your own way and changing your mindset?
Well, the fact that you are reading this is a great start because it means you’re tired of the status quo, tired of feeling like this, and ready to try something different! And that all starts with working on your mindset and thoughts – or rather, your reaction to them
How To Choose Something Different
Almost everyone on the planet has negative thoughts – even positive people. The difference between you and them is they pay no attention to those thoughts and make choices based on possibility, passion, and intention instead of fear.
Start noticing your thoughts and your emotions (hint – they’re very closely linked!) Feeling jealous of someone? That’s probably because they have something you want but won’t allow yourself to go after.
Feeling not good enough? That’s an old story that no longer serves you. Time to figure out where it came from and rewrite it.
Feeling afraid? That’s all good; fear is normal, but it’s not a sign that you shouldn’t do something (unless it’s the healthy, old-fashioned kind of fear that tells you not to stick your hand into the tiger’s cage at the zoo!)
It’s Over To You...
Nobody can do the work but you. However, there are many people who can support you to do the work. Practices like mindfulness, meditation, journaling, and affirmations can be a valuable part of the journey.
Chatting with a coach or therapist can help us get out of our own heads, identify limiting behaviours, and develop new ways of living.
And targeted support in the form of neuro-linguistic programming and hypnotherapy can help you get right to the source of those problematic thoughts, fast-tracking you to a new way of being.
If you are sick of feeling stuck and would like some help to move beyond your barriers, then book a time to chat with me today.
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